- You believe that if someone would change one or two things about themselves, you’d be happier. So you try to “help them” change this behavior by pointing it out, usually over and over.
- You micromanage others to make them fit your (often unrealistic) expectations. You don’t believe in imperfection and you don’t think anyone else should either.
- You judge others’ behavior as right or wrong and passive-aggressively withhold attention until they fall in line with your expectations. Sitting in silent judgment is a master form of control.
- You offer “constructive criticism” as a veiled attempt to advance your own agenda.
- You change who you are or what you believe so that someone will accept you. Instead of just being yourself, you attempt to incept others by managing their impression of you.
- You present worst-case scenarios in an attempt to influence someone away from certain behaviors and toward others. This is also called fear mongering.
- You have a hard time with ambiguity and being OK with not knowing something.
- You intervene on behalf of people by trying to explain or dismiss their behaviors to others.
“You believe that if you can change another person’s undesirable behavior, then you will be happier or more fulfilled. You make someone else responsible for how you feel.”
“The thing is, you are only responsible for you. The road to better relationships always starts with you. Rather than attempt to control everyone else, work on becoming a better version of yourself.”
“A decree to take effect on November 1 superseding an earlier one will continue to make it incumbent on employers to prove that they require foreign workers and that Vietnamese cannot replace them.”
“But employers now have to get approval from the provincial chief to hire foreign workers.”
“Foreigners found working without permits will be deported within 15 days.”
“Our education system, from kindergartens to universities, teaches students morals and ethics, helping them distinguish right from wrong and encouraging them to do good things.”
“Why do we then hear about such crimes almost every day? Is it because we are very superficial about what we are doing? It seems that we are more focused on academic results and do not really care about morals. We do not care enough to find out what the students actually learn.”
“It also seems that we are so focused on developing our economy that we have ignored the need to nurture morals in our society.”
“The United Nations did not choose March 20 as the International Happiness Day to celebrate every year for no reason. Every person in this world has a right to pursue happiness. “………as they, themselves, see fit………..;+)